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Blended Families

So, you have decided to take the plunge and enter into a new relationship.

You may already have children, and so may your partner.

Trying to work out how to blend these two existing families to form one new one, and keep everybody happy, is quite a challenge.

The children involved in this blended family may not be nearly as excited by this new situation, as their parents. They may be worried about upcoming changes and how to deal with new step-parents and step-siblings. Changes in family dynamics will be enormous and can be very frightening to some children. Parents too, have to learn how to deal with children they may have not known very long, with different values and habits, to their own. All of these issues can cause stress in the new relationships.

To have the best chance of successfully blending families, rules and guidelines should be agreed before combining them. Seeking help from a therapist is often helpful beforehand and is certainly recommended when it is clear that adjustment problems are arising that can’t be easily dealt with.

These are some of the common problems that can arise from blended families:

  • Discipline issues – which parent is responsible for which child
  • Different values and beliefs
  • In-laws – old and new
  • Ex-partners – custody arrangements, visitation rights
  • Agreement on issues such as education, religion, family rules and boundaries
  • Disruptive or problem children
  • Sibling jealousy
  • Scapegoating
  • Loss of couple time due to problems with the blended family, leading to resentment and insecurity

When communication is clear there are fewer opportunities for misunderstanding and more possibilities for connection between all parties. I have many years’ experience in dealing with all couple relationship problems, including those unique to blended families.

Whether this is a step you are currently considering or you are already having problems, this intensive workshop can help you to deal with all the above problems, as well as any others in your relationship.

Carole does not take sides and her ability to provide perspective based on her wealth of experience was very helpful.

The exercises were very practical and really helped us to understand where we fail to communicate effectively or assume too much.

The conflict resolution list is very useful and anyone who masters this will experience a lot more peace in their relationship.

Thank you Carole.
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from Fiji
It is early in the process but we both have optimism about our future together and our progress so far has been substantial.

Thanks Carole.
from Vic.
We are going real well, probably better than we ever expected.

I personally thank you for making such a difference to my life and I know (S) feels the same.
from QLD
Your workshop was great for us and was what we needed to make a fresh start and turn our relationship around.

We'd recommend your workshop to any couple who are in trouble and want to rekindle their love!

Thanks again Carole
J & M
from NSW
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