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Do we need to learn how to love ourselves before we can love others?
The concept of ‘self-love has sometimes become a way to make individuals more self-critical and less able to form healthy relationship bonds. In Western culture the self is often seen as a separate entity…
Don’t let this year end in Divorce
January is the month that most divorce applications are filed. Many unhappy couples stay together over Xmas to avoid disrupting families or because holiday plans have been made.
Do you still see your partner through ‘rose tinted glasses’?
If the answer is ‘Yes’, then you have a greater chance of staying together.
Communication
‘Communicating well and listening well are the basics of any relationship. Effective communication allows you to better understand a person or situation, resolve conflict and build trust.’
Intimacy
‘Intimacy is about being emotionally close to your partner, allowing them to know how you feel and to be able to let down your defences.’
Loss of trust
‘Betrayal, from an affair, causes loss of trust, pain, confusion and often a lack of self-esteem in the betrayed partner.
Infidelity
An interview with relationship specialist Carole Kelly, about infidelity. What is it; and how can a couple survive it?
My Relationship Has Hit a Drought
There is much talk in the media these days, about people suffering under the drought currently affecting Australia.
Autumn is a time for reflection
Autumn is a time to take stock of your life and make decisions about the path you will be following.
Was Christmas good for your relationship?
As we leap into 2018, many couples and families find themselves under increased pressure, partly because of the extended time spent together during the holiday break.
The small stuff is more important
To many people, the world right now seems a frightening and unstable place in which to live.
Christmas and New Year can be stressful
Christmas and New Year is a highly stressful time for all families, no matter how much they enjoy being together.
When the ‘Passion’ has died
There are many reasons for a relationship breakup; infidelity, financial pressure and poor communication are only some of them.
Rituals for Couples
In my years of counselling couples it has become very clear to me that those couples with strong and meaningful rituals, also have the strongest bonds.
The 4 types of relationship
David Jansen and Margaret Newman have speculated that there are 4 major types of intimate relationships.
Surviving Infidelity (part 2)
All affairs are likely to cause deep rifts in a relationship but the degree of problems can be determined by assessing the extent that the affair has permeated other areas of the couple’s life.
How well do you know your partner?
One of the more common presenting problems I see when counselling couples, is that they made a commitment to be together, plan their lives and future family together, without ever discussing if they shared common values and beliefs.
Preferred Representational Systems
We all present the outside world to ourselves through our senses, in everything that we do – planning, memory, fantasising or problem solving, and we all have a preferred system that represents our world.
